Start the Conversation

I talk about death a lot.  Not in a morbid way, but talking alleviates much of the fear and the goofy stories our brains create.

I think back to the birth of my daughter.  We spent 9 months planning, preparing, training for her birth.  Yet after she was here, we felt a little unprepared at what to do next.  For 9 months we focused on the 12 hours it took to bring her into this world rather than how to guide her in it for a lifetime.

Death is the same for me.  When we hear terms like "Start the Conversation" (a slogan for a funeral home here in Denver) most people think of discussing with loved ones what the arrangements should be made-- how and where they want to be buried.  We spend our energy focused on the body, on the care of the physical vessel, and blessed little time talking about what actually will occur during and after life ends.

I am passionate and at times emblazoned by talking about death in a way that supports the soul and brings comfort to the living.  After life has nothing to do with a coffin and everything to do with our the energy we bring into the great beyond!  Beliefs aside, it is deep quandary of faith and hope that in modern times we have difficulty reconciling. 

Talking about death shouldn't upset us, it should bring us comfort and curiosity even.  It can open doorways to conversations about our beliefs, fears, our faith even.  This allows us to deepen our relationships with those we love and strengthens our faith regardless of religion. 

We have a tweaked perception of death in our society which is further preyed upon by a medical establishment and pharmaceutical industry that creates fear as a means of profit.  It breaks my heart that we believe talking about death is somehow insensitive, rude or scary when in fact it should be just the opposite. 

Death is not only natural, but blissful, peaceful, a celebration of this shift from our physical form.  


George Harrison on his passing, literally lit up the room.  What a glorious way to continue to inspire the best in us, George!  

I hope we can soon embrace this as the norm and not the extra-ordinary.  

Through Death's Doorway

One of my biggest passions is assisting soul's from our world to the next.  I find my work as psychopomp one of the most rewarding!  

I'm not so good seeing people out (the actual death transition, I leave to the angels of hospice!) but I am often called on to help soul's make their journey clearly to the other side.  

I am a soul conductor.  Helping people make their way from the land of the living to the blissful land of Spirit.  I assist in making their journey to the afterlife.  The Egyptians had intricate prayers and rituals, yet our society simply offers condolences and elaborate funerary rites that often do not serve the soul at any level.   



I received this question today and thought it worth sharing:

"Hi Andye, 

I had a old friend that just passed.....I think he stopped by to say bye.  Is it to early to tell?"


--- "Not at all!  Within 3 days of passing, he's making his rounds.  Up until the funeral it's perfectly normal for him to visit and say howdy to friends and loved ones.  After the funeral, 6 weeks of quiet is needed for the soul to transition to the other side."




I shared some of these teachings when my cousin Gale passed.  He taught us much about Dying with Grace and I am happy to carry on his wisdom.


Death is a welcome and beautiful gift. To regard it with fear and distrust only harms the soul.  Please talk to your loved ones about this transition so we can lift the current consciousness that permeates our society!