Woo Woo Word of the Moment :: Psychopomp

I sling this word around my office with great glee.  For me, upon first hearing the word, something lit up in my soul.  I felt like I was being called and for the first time knew what to label myself.

Psychopomps are the Soul Conductors ensuring souls get from our world to the next.

We come in all shapes and sizes... tending family member, hospice nurse, CT scan tech, ghost hunter, medium, shaman and so very many spaces in between.

I am most often called into service to help the Soul navigate the death realms... this is something I trained in in other lives that is still stored within me.  I don't often know I'm being a guide, but will sometimes feel drains on my energy that remind me I'm being useful to those who need it.  


Other times, I act as medium, delivering messages across the veil.


Truth be told, I have never seen a physical death.  It's not my role and rather I am in absolute awe of those who get to bear witness every day.  What a gift to be honored as the one to hold them in thier last breath...to be trusted in that moment as the last one to see them in this form.  Ahhhhhh.  

If we don't know that we are actively in this role, we can get tired, experience unexplained grumpiness (even depression), irrational irritation and may just "not feel like ourselves."  Knowing how to assist these souls and how to restore our own reserves is the magic key!  I am passionate about sharing these techniques so we can more effectively fulfill our ancient call AND live a fulfilling life of our own choosing!

I host a workshop just for us... helping us embrace the role and assist on whichever side we are needed.  If you wanna join us, check out the Classes to see when the next one will be offered.

For those more deeply called, formal training may be the way to go.  

Not sure if you may be a psychopomp?  Take the quiz to find out!

Getting Unstuck is Uncomfortable

Getting unstuck is uncomfortable.  It's the comfort that got you stuck in the first place.  When finding a coach, healer, or therapist to work with, your aim is to find the person best suited to get you unstuck... that singular soul who can assist you in finding the triggers, the resistance and the discomfort -- and challenge you to heal it.  This challenge can come in many forms but, be prepared that it will not be the most enjoyable part of the journey.

Stuck-ness causes grief, stress, sleeplessness, depression, weight gain and general dis-ease with oneself.

Getting unstuck requires not only action, but also courage, truth and faith.  We have to have the faith that something else better comes after.  And at times, in the muck and mire of our own irritation and stench, faith feels like a farce.    

When we are unstuck, when we are in the perfect space of neutrality, of flow, of commune with the Divine, of peace, there, we discover abundant energy.  There is grace and serendipity; magic even.  This peace and flow is what lies on the other side of stuck.  Move through what makes you uncomfortable to embrace that which is yours. This truth is filled with elation, joy and glee and sometimes working toward it is the only motivation that matters. 

Unstuck is uncomfortable but it is the only way to move through, to reclaim who we were and who we are meant to be.  So when someone triggers you, don't look for an apology.  Instead give thanks that they are showing you exactly the space in you that needs to be healed right now.  Triggers are nasty lil buggers that move us out of peace and into agitation-- and in that momentary flip, they show us perfectly and clearly where it is that still needs some healin'.

Getting unstuck takes work!  It's not easy.  Easy is what gets us stuck and Comfy is staying there.  When we work on ourselves, unearthing the very best of who we are at our core, while temporarily uncomfortable, yields the most miraculous of truths!

Self work is also the most rewarding, for it frees up energy, unlocks the spaces in ourselves we did not know existed.  This allows more of us to be viable, dynamic, and alive in this world. 

What lies on the other side of stuck? 

We become who we've dreamed of being.  We inspire those we love and the Divine Dance that is life, flows in every way imaginable. 

Confronting the Quiet

NEVER ALONE -- This phrase bounced through my head for years.  Each time my beloved would bellow his frustrations with his own intuitive ability to “hear” his angels and guides:  “I feel like they’ve abandoned me," he would furl with utter dismay.  I would be bombarded with Never Alone, Never Alone, Never Alone.  Like a lonely satellite orbiting without destination, this psychic barrage would flood me until I shared the message.

As one who hears and feels it all – Spirits, Ascended Masters, Angels, ghosts, and every other brand of disembodied energy—I am puzzled by the feeling of being alone.  After all we are never truly alone.  If we know God, if we know Angels, if we can feel the wind upon our face or the heat of the sun upon our skin… we are never alone.

Yet many who suffer, truly do feel uncomfortable in their own quiet.  While meditation works wonders for some people, for me it never really let me sink into my own velvety depths.  Cultivating quiet is a blissful and spacious exercise but for me, it just felt like unproductive sitting.

I instead like to be messy.  Dive into those murky waters and muck around in my own psyche.  Unfurl all matters of thoughts, randomness, shame, grief and discomfort til I pop back up clean and unscathed.  This may be Cancerian nature but, diving right the heck in always feels so much better than passive “sit and watch your thoughts float away.”  I dig me some drama, baby!

Once you can visit these waters, seeing your own Shadow and telling him, “Let’s rumble,” the loneliness dissipates.

In all healing there are 2 components – releasing & purging stuck or non-productive energies AND bringing in something new, be it inspiration, clear guidance, or even reclaimed aspects of you.

Healing can be messy, little darling, but once we can go there, clarity, peace and yes --even relief -- come bounding in.  If loneliness is your trigger, I invite you to touch your darkest corners, bring it light and allow the healing to begin.   When we can get past feeling alone, we can remember we are rather AL(L)ONE.   

...as I'm getting ready to post, 3 Libras (bellowing the lyric "you don't see me") came on Pandora... even the video shows delving into those murky depths.... how's that for cosmic timing?

Soul Loss ... and other esoteric soul mastery notions

In the last post on the Boon Guide, I mentioned the Soul Retrieval -- way to leave you hangin, right?   I wanted to share why this is one of my favorite tools for healing!

It's really such a powerful process and I think everyone should receive at least one Soul Retrieval in the course of a lifetime.  (I've had 3 to date and find more pieces each time!)  
The basic idea::  as traumas occur, little pieces of us branch off or run away, called soul loss.  A soul retrieval gathers the "parts" and brings them home.  

And now for the expanded version of why soul retrievals are necessary ::   ... I'll explain the process next time...

First, let's set the landscape.  The Shaman performs Soul Retriveals which are the result of Soul Loss.  The Shaman is master of the spirit and physical worlds.  It is this trained and revered healer who literally walks between worlds to help his/her community.  The tools are well honored traditions, prayers, and methods that have been passed down through the ages.  The Soul Retrieval is one such tool.  





Soul Loss is what we're delving into so we need to know what makes the soul so dang special… outside of the obvious qualities...

The soul is our most basic life force.  As soon as the soul leaves, the body dies.  Anyone who has been with a loved one at the moment of passing can tell you once the soul departs, the person looks different, empty even.  

“You don’t have a soul. You are a soul. You have a body.”   - C.S. Lewis

Our soul is multi-faceted and complicated!  Not only does it venture through lifetimes, but it may even leave our body occasionally and visit other places.  Shamanic journeying, astral projection, and remote viewing are examples of the soul taking an escapade yet not fully departing the physical body.  

The soul can explore realms and come back… or in a soul loss, venture off and stay gone until we come lookin’.  Soul loss occurs any number of ways – from physical or sexual abuse, through experiencing a traumatic situation, or even just having a bad fight.  No one knows with certainty why a soul piece decides to fly off, but it is a common occurrence and one rarely addressed in our society.  Soul loss occurs for any number of reasons and cannot be prevented.  It is simply part of the package in this human condition.  

Shamans will look for hints that soul loss has occurred.  When they find clues, a soul retrieval is the next step to restoration of the client.  Here are some hints that may suggest this route:

You may notice a part of you feels dead or lost, this would be an obvious clue.  Were you in an auto accident years ago and haven't been the same since?  Or perhaps there's a relationship, long gone, that you've never been able to let go of. 

Common symptoms of a soul loss include :

 - depression
 - feeling incomplete
 - feeling stuck and not knowing how to move through it
 - feeling not like yourself, disconnected from those you love

Not all traumas cause soul loss and in some instances a piece may just decide it's all too much and hot tail it outta there.  I had one piece do exactly that.  She wasn’t happy with the choices I was making as a young adult—I enjoyed my drinking phase while she found it destructive!    

Though we cannot "prevent" soul loss, we can become energetically sensitive enough to recognize when something is off.  In this way we can do our own psychic maintenance to ensure total well being.