On Turning 40

I woke to the smell of the ocean luring me home. Something so deeply within my soul stirred and I was powerless to her wisdom. It was time to be done, close this chapter and leave this tumult of marriage behind.

Hope filled me at what the finality could mean. Long had I dallied with the possibility but as a clear directive from Yemaya, I could not waver.

Love won that day. Celebrated in myriad colors of triumph, I saw the city light up in untold glory. As the jubilee paraded in the distance, I was gifted roses in the thousands.

Songs of the Dead filled my heart, unfamiliar, yet their vibration of love penetrating even the most hardened spaces within.

The King of Swords escorted me home moving like a beam of light parting the crowds and undeniable in his radiance.

Affections rebuked but still laid at the feet of the goddess.

I was reborn, to add my salt to the ocean's tears and sway in the sweet melodies of decadence and freedom.

Rainbows and roses kissed my 30's away as I step into the fierce 40's finally certain that I know how to love this heart best.  

Woo Woo Word of the Moment :: Energy Vampire

Sure vampires may look cool with that immortality thing and all, but blood, my love, blood, is what keeps this glamour alive.  Energy Vampires (or Psychic Vampires) are no different, except instead of blood consumption, they suck energy.  Just as exhausting and damaging, these peeps, suck the life force out of us, leaving us haggard and wiped.

They are harder to spot physically (no easy sparkle skin or preternatural white gleen... or duh ,the one inch incisors) but you can most certainly feel when you've been zapped by one.  These are the people who leave you feeling insecure, powerless, and even tired when you leave an interaction.  You feel unhappy when you walk away even though "friend time" is intended to be meaningful and life giving!  Just think on this and I'm sure you can identify an encounter.

... I once had a boss who was an active addict.  Every time I would enter the office, I would feel nervous and on edge.  After our meetings, even when I had felt I stood my ground, I felt wiped and defeated.  He meant no harm, this was simply the way he had learned to get by in the world...


In most cases, the energy vampire does not know they are doing this.  They may have learned from parents or adapted as a means of survival.  The intentions are rarely menacing yet their behaviors are undeniable.


We all owe it to ourselves and those around us to take responsibility for our energy... where it goes, and how it's acquired. If you discover yourself creating encounters that make others feel defensive and uneasy, you may be an unconscious energetic vampire. 

When you find yourself on the other side of these psychic vampires:

- allow yourself to ground and find your center.  The earth can support and refill you whenever you need Her to.

 - surround yourself in a bubble of golden pink light.  You will find yourself at ease and can then begin to reclaim your space.  You will feel better almost instantly and have the ability to re-set your boundaries.

- love yourself enough to leave the darn situation!  Stepping back and refusing to engage is the most loving act you can do for yourself.

Repeated exposure and codependent tendencies can actually attract more of these vampires to you.  Boundaries that respect your personal space and energy are needed.  You are an immense being of light and if you don't share it, feel it, be it, there are plenty of others who want to lay claim on your brilliance. 


Shamanic healing and  energy work is always a benefit when you are recovering from these encounters and can also assist you in learning to expand your energy to feel more like the version of you God intended.   


Share your ooey gooey love on this planet and aim to make every person you meet smile when you walk away.  This is the New Earth -we are creating and it's up to us to choose what we put into it. 

Boundaries, the ultimate act of Self Love

At the end of a reading, a client gently asked if there was anything else she needed to know... a seemingly simple question... and this came through.  I happily share with her permission!

"Boundaries are an act of self love.  An act of valuing oneself over the perceived inconvenience you may cause another.  when you choose not to set boundaries, you tell the universe that you (your time, your feelings, etc) don't matter.  the other person is therefore more "important" than you.  

In the universe of co-creation, each time we slight ourselves we deny our participation in an unfolding universe.  We are not important, we are not co creators and the universe cannot honor what we ask of it for we are not honoring it within ourselves.  

You know and have the tools but don't exercise them preferring to make yourself uncomfortable instead.  

We seem to think boundaries may hurt or offend the other.  when in fact it is us who are inconvenienced.  some may choose to disregard the boundaries you set, and these energies then become clear thorns that need to be pruned from the garden of your life.  

Boundaries are not rude, they are acts of protection and honor of self.  They are self love and can be exercised in a way that shows the universe and the other person, that we value and love ourselves.  Each time we do this, we can teach the others too as well."