Woo Woo Word of the Moment :: Energy Vampire

Sure vampires may look cool with that immortality thing and all, but blood, my love, blood, is what keeps this glamour alive.  Energy Vampires (or Psychic Vampires) are no different, except instead of blood consumption, they suck energy.  Just as exhausting and damaging, these peeps, suck the life force out of us, leaving us haggard and wiped.

They are harder to spot physically (no easy sparkle skin or preternatural white gleen... or duh ,the one inch incisors) but you can most certainly feel when you've been zapped by one.  These are the people who leave you feeling insecure, powerless, and even tired when you leave an interaction.  You feel unhappy when you walk away even though "friend time" is intended to be meaningful and life giving!  Just think on this and I'm sure you can identify an encounter.

... I once had a boss who was an active addict.  Every time I would enter the office, I would feel nervous and on edge.  After our meetings, even when I had felt I stood my ground, I felt wiped and defeated.  He meant no harm, this was simply the way he had learned to get by in the world...


In most cases, the energy vampire does not know they are doing this.  They may have learned from parents or adapted as a means of survival.  The intentions are rarely menacing yet their behaviors are undeniable.


We all owe it to ourselves and those around us to take responsibility for our energy... where it goes, and how it's acquired. If you discover yourself creating encounters that make others feel defensive and uneasy, you may be an unconscious energetic vampire. 

When you find yourself on the other side of these psychic vampires:

- allow yourself to ground and find your center.  The earth can support and refill you whenever you need Her to.

 - surround yourself in a bubble of golden pink light.  You will find yourself at ease and can then begin to reclaim your space.  You will feel better almost instantly and have the ability to re-set your boundaries.

- love yourself enough to leave the darn situation!  Stepping back and refusing to engage is the most loving act you can do for yourself.

Repeated exposure and codependent tendencies can actually attract more of these vampires to you.  Boundaries that respect your personal space and energy are needed.  You are an immense being of light and if you don't share it, feel it, be it, there are plenty of others who want to lay claim on your brilliance. 


Shamanic healing and  energy work is always a benefit when you are recovering from these encounters and can also assist you in learning to expand your energy to feel more like the version of you God intended.   


Share your ooey gooey love on this planet and aim to make every person you meet smile when you walk away.  This is the New Earth -we are creating and it's up to us to choose what we put into it. 

Boundaries, the ultimate act of Self Love

At the end of a reading, a client gently asked if there was anything else she needed to know... a seemingly simple question... and this came through.  I happily share with her permission!

"Boundaries are an act of self love.  An act of valuing oneself over the perceived inconvenience you may cause another.  when you choose not to set boundaries, you tell the universe that you (your time, your feelings, etc) don't matter.  the other person is therefore more "important" than you.  

In the universe of co-creation, each time we slight ourselves we deny our participation in an unfolding universe.  We are not important, we are not co creators and the universe cannot honor what we ask of it for we are not honoring it within ourselves.  

You know and have the tools but don't exercise them preferring to make yourself uncomfortable instead.  

We seem to think boundaries may hurt or offend the other.  when in fact it is us who are inconvenienced.  some may choose to disregard the boundaries you set, and these energies then become clear thorns that need to be pruned from the garden of your life.  

Boundaries are not rude, they are acts of protection and honor of self.  They are self love and can be exercised in a way that shows the universe and the other person, that we value and love ourselves.  Each time we do this, we can teach the others too as well." 

Getting the Most from a Psychic Fair

Psychic fairs can be fun and exciting!  In fact I've met some inspiring people and received life enhancing messages this way.  But, it can also be a energetic overload...  I'm grateful to have been on both sides of the table and always try to empower people with the information that allows the experience to be as magical as it can be.  

Just as all salesmen aren't in integrity, not all psychics are either.  We are gifted with extra sensory awareness and while that should come with a code of ethics, it does not.    Each psychic finds his or her own way and develops the toolset and techniques that serve them best in this world.  You likely screen and filter healthcare providers and so too must you use discretion in choosing a psychic.  The fairs don't always allow you the time to use this process.

We all get nervous and excited with so much energy flying around.  When I get readings in this environment I still get the jitters...  What I've learned is to not take it all in as my truth. If I do believe the insight they share, especially those messages which might cause me to feel badly about myself, I must evaluate whether the information was true for me.  When it is, rock the heck on and our lives can be enhanced by such loving and accurate wisdom.  When we later discover said nuggets to be untrue,  I have to work doubly hard to remove release and purge this information from mind and body.  We are open and vulnerable lil beings, and like water must be clean.   Yech!  

I'm open and want to believe that everyone works in my same vein of ethics.  It's sadly not true, so I've instead  learned to receive with gratitude and later review the messages.  Those that feel right and beneficial (if even unpleasant or hard to swallow) I allow myself to incorporate and work with. 

In these busy hectic places, psychics are salesmen trying to recoup their investment and build their business.  Being aware and savvy is always a good start.  Here's a few more tips....

-breathe and ground yourself before going to the fair.  Don't be too open but do be curious and in a space of love

- walk the room first. Look for the reader who jumps out and make you feel excited. 

- be in your power, exude grace and excitement!   Desperation energy is easily felt and the less reputable healers may take advantage of your vulnerability and convince you that you need them.  (I've fallen into this trap and felt like such a sap after... we all want to be seen and feel special, sometimes in these environments this desire isn't working in our favor).  

- be in your heart during the reading but put all the messages into a bubble or treasure chest outside of you.  

-not all messages are accurate (psychics are people too and after 2 days of 8 hours of readings, they may not be at the top of their game)

- after the event, review the messages and inspiration,  keep what feels right to you and discard the rest

- go through the cards you gathered and see who still jumps out for you.... These would be the people you may want to work with in the future

Psychic Etiquette -- it's time to expect what you deserve.

Too many times I hear of other psychics filling your gorgeous heads with nonsense.  I work hard to be honest and in great integrity, and think it's only fair you too should expect this from us.... always! 

Psychic boundaries are essential for both parties.  I don't want to see things I shouldn't, nor do you.  So I set into place impeccable ethical standards around each session.  Being psychic is a job -- albiet one that never feels like work :-) -- and just as you don't work when you're with your family, neither do I.   

I'm not "on" all the time.  I have sacred rituals that allow me to be psychic, and once I prepare sacred space is when choose to turn up the volume and listen in to what our Guides have to say.  This protects us both and ensures you get the very best of me when we are in session. Being on, all the time, is physically exhausting and is a violation of your privacy.  I don't play that way, and I hope those you choose to work with don't either. 

Many times either due to a bad experience or out of not knowing what to expect, people fear that having a reading will give the psychic or healer access to everything... good and bad alike.  Not the case, my sweet!  I cannot know everything and choose to focus only on those questions and issues that pertain to what YOU are asking of me.  All else is off limits and protects your most intimate details.  

 

If you don't know your healer's "rules" and boundaries, please ask them.  In this way, you hold us all to a higher level of integrity.   You should be able to trust us and expect the very best in your session.  If you don't, never feel bad about stopping the session and stepping away respectfully and lovingly.  Not every match is a perfect one, and you deserve to invest your money and time in a place that resonates with you perfectly!